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Harlan Jacobsen Copyright © 2003

With that kind of programming, most middle-aged people really don't feel
comfortable talking about sex in the second time around dating situation.

           Yet you are supposed to be a knowledgeable, sophisticated adult.

Now here you are, thinking about having a sexual relationship with a relative stranger and you are not even comfortable talking about sex.



IF THEY ARE A MARRIAGE OR LONG TERM PROSPECT, YOU WILL BE UPTIGHT ABOUT PLEASING THEM IN BED

Will I turn them off? Will I be less than adequate? Am I doing the right thing at the right time?

Of the hundreds of people whom I have interviewed, some of the women I talked to said that when they went to Europe and had sex with someone, it was particularly enjoyable and many realized why that was.

It was not because the europeans were better lovers, it was because they were not particularly uptight about pleasing or impressing whoever they were in bed with as to their sexual abilities but were in bed primarily to enjoy themselves and that was it.

WHEN YOU ARE JUST IN BED TO ENJOY YOURSELF, .....
......THEN THE SEX SEEMS GOOD

When you take along a whole lot of worries about "Is this person going to be satisfied with me" in bed, then it takes most of the fun out of it.

             When you are both just there to have a good time, and not all that uptight about it and not take it all that serious, then it turns out to be              pretty good.

The harder you try or worry about making it good ........... - often the more of a disaster it seems to become......

THERE IS OFTEN SO MUCH UNCERTAINTY OF WHAT IS WANTED OR INTENDED THAT GOING TO BED TOGETHER IS A SEA OF TENSION

The trick is to make and have no demands, create no expectations and just have the attitude "

          Let's have a good time together and that's it."



YOU NEED TO BE ABLE TO EXPRESS WHERE YOU ARE AT AND HOW YOU FEEL

You don't have to make the other person feel manipulated or pressured to deal with the situation in any way.

You imply spontaneity, freedom and enjoyment.



IF YOU ARE NEW TO THIS AND FEELING UNCOMFORtable BECAUSE OF OLD PROGRAMMING

.......- SAY SO


That doesn't end anything; that helps your partner understand and be helpful and not rush things.


           You suffer from not having a good sexual relationship, there is no reason to suffer when you do.

If you have inhibitions, worries and conflicting programming that are keeping you from enjoying a happy sex life, then it is better if you make that clear to your potential partner that you are working through these and that you want sex to be the best ever for both and you may need their help

           I am sure that they will be understanding and really go out of their way to make it great for you both.

               They are now on your side instead of some kind of competition.

DO NOT PRETEND YOU HAVE EVERYTHING TOGETHER AND YOU COULD DO THIS FOR A LIVING


When you are a novice, you are a novice aren't you?

As we have said before, you didn't have 20 years experience.

                 You probably just had one years experience 20 times.


WHY ARE YOU IN BED TOGETHER ANYWAY?

One reason is the urge - your body wants to. (If it doesn't want to, jump out of bed) There are a lot of other reasons - none of which are all that worthwhile.

WILL THIS MAKE TODAY A BETTER, MORE MEMORABLE DAY FOR BOTH OF US?

Then, okay,......
........ let's get with it.

                 Let us both reassure the other what the name of the game is and that there are no strings attached.

IT'S OKAY TO SAY YOU ARE A NOVICE AT THIS AND ASK THEM IF THEY ARE A GOOD TEACHER

If you are new to taking up sex again, say so, then dive in; no use putting your little toe in the water. If you are going to swim, dive in, and have a good time.

                Your partner will help.

WILL THEY EVER WANT TO GO TO BED WITH ME AGAIN?

If they feel they gave you a tremendous good time, they certainly will want to have sex again with someone they really succeed with.

                 That's why the best thing you can do is really enjoy yourself and not take all this so seriously.

IF THE PIANO PLAYER HAS A GOOD TIME MAKING MUSIC - YOU ENJOY IT TOO

Even if they are not expert, the enthusiasm is contagious.

                 If you are
                 enthusiastic about your fun sexual relationship, they will be too.

Technique is important, but far more important is your attitude.

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