One way is through physical contact. Obviously, if you can't get within three feet of them, this is difficult.

            Physical contact is relatively easy normally and it is fun but it is sort of a form of hypnosis and if someone snaps their fingers at the wrong time            their partner may become awake and struggling and you may have to start all over again.

            Physical intimacy has advancing stages of intimacy.........
               The crude person might start right out with genital grabbing and succeed but most of the time if you try this short cut, you will be thrown right out                of the game.

            So we start from the beginning and proceed in steps. With advancing stages of physical intimacy either partner may call a halt at any point if they             are not comfortable at this stage with their partner.

                 You may advance past this stage later after becoming adjusted to previous stages.

THERE ARE 12 STEPS OF PHYSICAL INTIMACY OR BODILY CONTACT

It starts with simple handholding and proceeds eventually to #12 - genital contact. We will not go into the steps here (We have run this in other articles) but simply note it can take 6 weeks or 6 minutes to get from No. 1 to No. 12. Arriving at 12 does not automatically put you in bed together.

                 However, you do need at least some physical contact stages to gain familiarity.


When you are involved in physical contact, it is essential that you give your partner physical feedback.

                 1. Getting no clues thrown back is like playing pingpong by yourself.

When your partner advances to the next step of physical intimacy if you do duplicate it or advance to the next step then the whole thing can be speeded up.
When you get close to going to bed with each other, if someone unbuttons something for example, then the other unbuttons something.

(This is feedback.)

"Let's go to my place."

'What I'd do with you if we weren't at this party.

Now if this game goes well and advances well verbally with good suggestions on both sides, usually you will not be at the party more than thirty minutes.
You will.......
...... be off together
....... somewhere else........ doing something else.

The crude person may succeed, once in a while starting out with a sentence, would you like to go to bed with me?
They also get hit with a purse a lot !
Learning how to verbally turn on yourself and your partner at the same time is another whole chapter.